Merge #13134: net: Add option -enablebip61 to configure sending of BIP61 notifications

87fe292d89 doc: Mention disabling BIP61 in bips.md (Wladimir J. van der Laan)
fe16dd8226 net: Add option `-enablebip61` to configure sending of BIP61 notifications (Wladimir J. van der Laan)

Pull request description:

  This commit adds a boolean option `-peersendreject`, defaulting to `1`, that can be used to disable the sending of [BIP61](https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0061.mediawiki) `reject` messages. This functionality has been requested for various reasons:

  - security (DoS): reject messages can reveal internal state that can be used to target certain resources such as the mempool more easily.

  - bandwidth: a typical node sends lots of reject messages; this counts against upstream bandwidth. Also the reject messages tend to be larger than the message that was rejected.

  On the other hand, reject messages can be useful while developing client software (I found them indispensable while creating bitcoin-submittx), as well as for our own test cases, so whatever the default becomes on the long run, IMO the functionality should be retained as option. But that's a discussion for later, for now it's simply a node operator decision.

  Also adds a RPC test that checks the functionality.

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doc/bips.md

@@ -15,7 +15,7 @@ BIPs that are implemented by Bitcoin Core (up-to-date up to **v0.16.0**):
 * [`BIP 35`](https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0035.mediawiki): The 'mempool' protocol message (and the protocol version bump to 60002) has been implemented since **v0.7.0** ([PR #1641](https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/1641)).
 * [`BIP 37`](https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0037.mediawiki): The bloom filtering for transaction relaying, partial merkle trees for blocks, and the protocol version bump to 70001 (enabling low-bandwidth SPV clients) has been implemented since **v0.8.0** ([PR #1795](https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/1795)).
 * [`BIP 42`](https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0042.mediawiki): The bug that would have caused the subsidy schedule to resume after block 13440000 was fixed in **v0.9.2** ([PR #3842](https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/3842)).
-* [`BIP 61`](https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0061.mediawiki): The 'reject' protocol message (and the protocol version bump to 70002) was added in **v0.9.0** ([PR #3185](https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/3185)).
+* [`BIP 61`](https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0061.mediawiki): The 'reject' protocol message (and the protocol version bump to 70002) was added in **v0.9.0** ([PR #3185](https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/3185)). Starting *v0.17.0*, whether to send reject messages can be configured with the `-enablebip61` option.
 * [`BIP 65`](https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0065.mediawiki): The CHECKLOCKTIMEVERIFY softfork was merged in **v0.12.0** ([PR #6351](https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/6351)), and backported to **v0.11.2** and **v0.10.4**. Mempool-only CLTV was added in [PR #6124](https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/6124).
 * [`BIP 66`](https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0066.mediawiki): The strict DER rules and associated version 3 blocks have been implemented since **v0.10.0** ([PR #5713](https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/5713)).
 * [`BIP 68`](https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0068.mediawiki): Sequence locks have been implemented as of **v0.12.1**  ([PR #7184](https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/7184)), and have been activated since *block 419328*.