Merge bitcoin/bitcoin#27114: p2p: Allow whitelisting manual connections

0a533613fb docs: add release notes for #27114 (brunoerg)
e6b8f19de9 test: add coverage for whitelisting manual connections (brunoerg)
c985eb854c test: add option to speed up tx relay/mempool sync (brunoerg)
66bc6e2d17 Accept "in" and "out" flags to -whitelist to allow whitelisting manual connections (Luke Dashjr)
8e06be347c net_processing: Move extra service flag into InitializeNode (Luke Dashjr)
9133fd69a5 net: Move `NetPermissionFlags::Implicit` verification to `AddWhitelistPermissionFlags` (Luke Dashjr)
2863d7dddb net: store `-whitelist{force}relay` values in `CConnman` (brunoerg)

Pull request description:

  Revives #17167. It allows whitelisting manual connections. Fixes #9923

  Since there are some PRs/issues around this topic, I'll list some motivations/comments for whitelisting outbound connections from them:
  - Speed-up tx relay/mempool sync for testing purposes (my personal motivation for this) - In #26970, theStack pointed out that we whitelist peers to speed up tx relay for fast mempool synchronization, however, since it applies only for inbound connections and considering the topology `node0 <--- node1 <---- node2 <--- ... <-- nodeN`,  if a tx is submitted from any node other than node0, the mempool synchronization can take quite long.
  - https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/29058#issuecomment-1865155764 - "Before enabling -v2transport by default (which I'd image may happen after https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/24748) we could consider a way to force manual connections to be only-v1 or even only-v2 (disabling reconnect-with-v1). A possibility could be through a net permission flag, if https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/27114 makes it in."
  - https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/17167#issuecomment-1168606032 - "This would allow us to use https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/25355 when making outgoing connections to all nodes, except to whitelisted ones for which we would use our persistent I2P address."
  - Force-relay/mempool permissions for a node you intentionally connected to.

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test/functional/wallet_send.py

@@ -30,10 +30,11 @@ class WalletSendTest(BitcoinTestFramework):
 
     def set_test_params(self):
         self.num_nodes = 2
-        # whitelist all peers to speed up tx relay / mempool sync
+        # whitelist peers to speed up tx relay / mempool sync
+        self.noban_tx_relay = True
         self.extra_args = [
-            ["-whitelist=127.0.0.1","-walletrbf=1"],
-            ["-whitelist=127.0.0.1","-walletrbf=1"],
+            ["-walletrbf=1"],
+            ["-walletrbf=1"]
         ]
         getcontext().prec = 8 # Satoshi precision for Decimal